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how to not say the wrong thing

It's hard to know what to say to people when they're in the depths of something challenging! So guidelines for how to say the right thing and not say the wrong thing are useful. We all want to be that good, supportive friend in times of need. Click to read the excellent article from the Los Angeles Times.

“When you are talking to a person in a ring smaller than yours, someone closer to the center of the crisis, the goal is to help. Listening is often more helpful than talking. But if you’re going to open your mouth, ask yourself if what you are about to say is likely to provide comfort and support. If it isn’t, don’t say it. Don’t, for example, give advice. People who are suffering from trauma don’t need advice. They need comfort and support. So say, ‘I’m sorry’ or ‘This must really be hard for you’ or ‘Can I bring you a pot roast?’ Don’t say, ‘You should hear what happened to me’ or ‘Here’s what I would do if I were you.’ And don’t say, ‘This is really bringing me down.’”

An oldie but a goodie! A friend posted this today and I realized I had not shared this simple and incredibly helpful plan for communicating with people who are in the middle of #grief or #trauma. #grieftips #whatnottosay https://t.co/lfTgcNOPrh

— Rader Ward Foundation (@RaderWardFound) January 21, 2020
Tuesday 01.21.20
Posted by Susan Ward
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